Healing for the New Year;
You know when people say..."keep looking forward...stop looking in the rear view mirror." Yes, very good advice, except for those times when we look in the rear view mirror and we see there is a big mess or perhaps just a bit of clutter. Maybe we need to stop and clean it up,...before we can move on. Then we may find that there are many messes along the way. However, the messes keep getting smaller and smaller and easier and faster to clean up.
I do like to use affirmations and not dwell in the past too long when having a bad day. Then we have those days, where that ass#$%* trauma pops up. My clean ups are not my own...and I am guessing yours are not either, if you are reading this. Sadly, we must get rid of this clutter, which of course is the pain, the sadness that we carry with us...sometimes the shame, which is again, not ours. It does not seem fair, yet to keep moving forward we have to sort through the shit and get rid of it.
When i am sorting through it...i never give it more than 15 minutes. I fight with the "its not fair," for less than a minute and then do the work. It is always, ALWAYS, hard! But i am worth it! I deserve to have some peace and be happy...and so do you!
Therapy has been my saving grace in my healing process; However, everyone has their own process. That being said, although I would like to give credit to all those amazing therapists, It was a lot more than that, that brought me to where i am now. Everyone must find their own but i would like to mention some things that have significantly helped.
Yoga
Meditation
Eating closer to the earth
Eliminating toxic relationships..or at least distancing them
Being present when spending time with loved ones
Long walks in the forest
Swimming in natural bodies of water when possible
Helping a someone i do not know just because they need the help
Prayer
Crying...letting go
and more Yoga...the list goes on and I am going to write an upcoming blog on walking meditations as well as some of the other things that are not only healing but allow one to experience extreme happiness!
You know when people say..."keep looking forward...stop looking in the rear view mirror." Yes, very good advice, except for those times when we look in the rear view mirror and we see there is a big mess or perhaps just a bit of clutter. Maybe we need to stop and clean it up,...before we can move on. Then we may find that there are many messes along the way. However, the messes keep getting smaller and smaller and easier and faster to clean up.
I do like to use affirmations and not dwell in the past too long when having a bad day. Then we have those days, where that ass#$%* trauma pops up. My clean ups are not my own...and I am guessing yours are not either, if you are reading this. Sadly, we must get rid of this clutter, which of course is the pain, the sadness that we carry with us...sometimes the shame, which is again, not ours. It does not seem fair, yet to keep moving forward we have to sort through the shit and get rid of it.
When i am sorting through it...i never give it more than 15 minutes. I fight with the "its not fair," for less than a minute and then do the work. It is always, ALWAYS, hard! But i am worth it! I deserve to have some peace and be happy...and so do you!
Therapy has been my saving grace in my healing process; However, everyone has their own process. That being said, although I would like to give credit to all those amazing therapists, It was a lot more than that, that brought me to where i am now. Everyone must find their own but i would like to mention some things that have significantly helped.
Yoga
Meditation
Eating closer to the earth
Eliminating toxic relationships..or at least distancing them
Being present when spending time with loved ones
Long walks in the forest
Swimming in natural bodies of water when possible
Helping a someone i do not know just because they need the help
Prayer
Crying...letting go
and more Yoga...the list goes on and I am going to write an upcoming blog on walking meditations as well as some of the other things that are not only healing but allow one to experience extreme happiness!
